Looking through the search terms that others have used recently to get to my diary of a country wife blog , I came across “i found my wife’s diary” and I am now very intrigued as to what the searcher could be looking for? What did he find when he read his wife’s diary? An affair perhaps? Most likely scenario judging by the quick google search I conducted a few minutes ago:
Perhaps it’s nothing as startling as an affair that the husband will find, but something more mundane like a litany of complaints against him – like the husband who “started to read my wifes diary once….I never knew there were so many adjectives for a freakin moron….and that was just the 1st page….never went near it after that”.
Another poses the question on a message board of whether he should read his wife’s diary or not, using the justification that ” When we took our vows, I believe we “became one”….and thus I would technically be reading what I took part in writing….in the eyes of God…”
One of the answers recommends that “the wife shouldn’t have one in her home. If she has secrets, she should lock them in her heart. We all have secrets, but to write them down is crazy. What if a wife died suddenly and the family found it?”
On the same message board, someone else makes the point that is closest to what I believe too:
“We all have the right to our on private thoughts, hopes, wishes and dreams”.
I keep a diary and I find that the act of writing it all out helps me to clarify my feelings and work things out on paper. It is useful for me to look back on old entries and see the same patterns emerging – the same arguments. Often it serves as a wake up call – that here is an issue we keep coming up against or here is a pattern we keep repeating.
The final bit of advice for a potential wife’s diary reader comes from another message board advising the husband to read his wife’s diary by all means but “only after consulting with an attorney……Make sure your affairs are in order,’cuz she’s gonna kill ya…”